I recently came across this amusing list of
45 Reasons NOT to Have a Home Birth and it inspired me to make my own list of why I will always choose homebirth. I'm assuming my future pregnancies will be healthy and low risk. Of course I would have a hospital birth or c-section if it was truly medically necessary!
I also came across
this opinions piece on a local mommy blog that irked me because it urged families to reconsider homebirth, VBAC, and natural birth based on her personal opinion and experiences. So I decided that my list would be full of personal opinion too, just from the opposite side, although I do link to research on some points.
Disclaimer: Unlike the NICU nurse blog post linked above, I DO NOT think I know the best birth place for everyone. Two people can look at the same data and decide very different things, or have other factors to consider. This list is not a judgement of anyone's choices, it is not meant to fuel the so-called "mommy wars," and is not meant to convince anyone to birth anywhere. It is just a list of personal reasons why I choose homebirth. Similar to choosing to go to a Lutheran Church on Sundays or eating a dairy and gluten filled pizza on a Friday night may be the best choice for me, that does not mean I judge anyone for being an Atheist or avoiding animal products. Nor does it mean I'm trying to convert anyone to Christianity or junk food.
1) I don't want strangers at my birth. Even if you get your care
provider of choice, which may not happen if you give birth when they're not on call, you will definitely get one or more nurses you don't know. I
spend 6 months getting to know my midwife during hour long prenatal
visits which means we know each other pretty well and I am comfortable with her and her practices.
No strangers here, just my husband, mom, and midwife.
2) I don't want to be bombarded by a million stupid questions during
admittance to the hospital and annoying typing sounds as they enter the
information into the computer. "Did you take your prenatal vitamin
today?" clickity clack clack "When was the last time you ate something
and what was it?" clackety click click "Are you allergic to any
medications? Oh now I see on your chart that you're not" clickity click
clack "Ok, now it's time for me to shove my fingers into your vagina to
assess your "progress."
3) I don't want to leave the
privacy and familiarity of my home during labor and go into the bright
lights and cold, clinical atmosphere of the hospital. Car travel while
dealing with contractions sounds like a nightmare. And privacy and
familiarity are important in order for your hormones to be at optimal levels. Women instinctively seek out a dark, quiet, private place where they feel safest and many times labor will slow or even stall when they arrive at the hospital. Your thinking brain says it's safe but your primitive brain says the bright lights, strangers, and unfamiliar atmosphere is dangerous! This can cause your adrenaline to go up and your oxytocin and beta endorphins to go down, which is the opposite of what you want.
Laboring in the comfort of my own home. Ryan is doing the rebozo technique to encourage baby to change positions (she was posterior) and for my comfort during contractions.
4) It's WAY cheaper! I know this isn't the case for most people with good insurance, but I'm on the bare minimum insurance with super high deductibles. It would actually cost us MORE for a natural birth in the hospital than it does for a homebirth midwife. Especially considering all the prenatals and postpartum visits homebirth midwives provide.
5) I want evidence based fetal monitoring. Intermittent auscultation
(listening occasionally with a fetoscope) is shown to be better than
even intermittent doppler or EFM (electronic fetal monitoring). And there's
no ultrasound used with a fetoscope. See
here for information on evidence based fetal monitoring.
Palpating for baby's position, after which my midwife used a fetoscope to listen to baby's heart tones.
6) My children deserve to be present during the birth of their
siblings. A sibling attended birth may be possible in a
hospital but in homebirth it is often expected and even encouraged.
7) I want a waterbirth. Waterbirth has many documented benefits for
baby and mom and is safe. See
here. It's possible to plan a hospital waterbirth but it's much
more likely to actually occur at home as you aren't competing with other women for use of the tub or getting risked out for reasons that may not be evidence based.
Shortly before Audrey was born in the water
8) I want to push when my body tells me to, not when someone else tells
me to. Hospital staff often tell women to push HARD as they count to 10
and to do so 2 to 3 times during a contraction. They may also want you
to start pushing as soon as you reach 10 cm dilation even if you don't
feel the urge yet. Partly because they see mostly medicated births, where
the woman often can't feel the urge to push, and also because they want
you to hurry up and have this baby now. My body is perfectly capable of
knowing how and when to push and I don't want to be put on someone
else's timeline.
9) I want to be free to instinctively choose the position for pushing my baby out which may be squatting, kneeling, standing, lying on my side, or something else. The most common position for a woman to give birth in the hospital is lying on her back, which is actually the worst position physiologically. It's what we're used to seeing in media and it is convenient for the staff. The woman is often too tired and away in "labor land" to be able to assert her desires to move and then actually do so. Plus she is often on her back already for the EFM and vaginal exams that are frequently performed.
10) Speaking of vaginal exams, I prefer
none. I know it sounds crazy to not want another person's hand up in the most intimate place of your body. But there is no good reason to do them during pregnancy (see
here) and I trust my body to know when to push my baby out. I may decide to have one done before I start pushing if there's concern that there is still cervix left, or in the case of variations like a long labor, but that will be one exam likely done at my request. Not several exams every few hours by various nurses and doctors. Labor is MUCH MORE than mere cervical dilation!
11) I want to be snuggled in my own bed after birth and will likely not be moving (except to go to the bathroom and take sitz baths) for a good many days afterwards. I imagine in the hospital you are constantly
interrupted by well meaning nurses. We were during Audrey's hospital stay at least. I also don't want to be kicked out of my birth place 4 hours after giving birth, as is done in a birth center.
So comfy in our own bed! And she's looking at us for the first time.
12) Snuggled on top of me in bed will be my newborn. Yes that's right, I sleep with my babies. I don't think the hospital staff would take kindly to that and I would prefer not to have annoying conversations about bed sharing. On the other hand, my midwife actually encourages bed sharing. Isn't bed sharing super dangerous you ask? Short answer is no, if you do it intentionally and make your bed safe. See
here and
this book by LLL for more information.
About 24 hours old, enjoying skin to skin and sleep with Mom.
13) I don't have to remind anyone about my birth plan or risk it being ignored. Many times, a wonan's desires for a natural birth are respected and encouraged. Not so much for the third stage of labor if she doesn't want them yanking out her placenta or giving pitocin routinely. After 6 months of hour long prenatal visits my midwife is very familiar with my desires for birth. And her philosophy of birth and subsequent practices are mostly what would be on my birth plan anyways.
14) My family should be able to bond with each other after the baby is
born, me and baby especially, and not be interrupted by random people we will never see again. I
don't want my baby rubbed dry with towels, a hat shoved on his head,
the cord clamped after it's "done pulsing" at 30 seconds, or strangers chatting around us. "Oh what a lot of hair!" "Now she's crying
good!" "You did so great!" Barring an emergency, I want us to be left
alone. This is a special, sacred time that will never be repeated.
15) Baby led breastfeeding. My baby knows how to latch immediately after birth and we don't need a nurse to swaddle her hands up, grab my boob, and shove her on.
Information on baby led/laid back nursing
Laid back nursing
16) In the case we have a boy, I don't want to be asked about circumcision or risk having his foreskin forcibly retracted. My midwife, as are most homebirth midwives, is a strong supporter of leaving babies intact. Who knows what the hospital staff's position is? To quote author and urologist, Dr. Adrienne Carmack: "No, it's not ok to cut your newborn child's genitals. Period." Curious about circumcision and why people are against it? See
here,
here, and
here.
17) Homebirth means continuity of care. In the hospital the OB or
midwife is usually done with baby care the minute the cord is cut and
after the woman is discharged from the hospital her next appointment is usually at 6 weeks postpartum. A homebirth midwife views the mom and baby as one
unit, even postpartum (often referred to as "motherbaby"), and will
continue to provide postpartum care throughout 6 weeks postpartum with
many in home visits.
Newborn exams and measurements, which were done a few hours after her birth.
18) If my midwife suggests an intervention or even hospital transfer, I trust that she's not wanting to be home for dinner, needing to adhere to hospital policy (which may or may not be evidence based), or unskilled in what may be a normal variation of birth. Since she is an expert in normal, natural birth I can be pretty sure that said intervention or transfer is actually necessary.
19) On the subject of complications and variations, homebirth midwives are very skilled and knowledgeable on how to handle many of these. You don't need to have a picture perfect birth in order to have your baby at home. During Audrey's birth I actually had several 'complications': long labor lasting 3 days (during which I'm sure my cervix wasn't making any "progress"), meconium stained waters, hemorrhage, and a nearly 3rd degree tear. All of these were dealt with safely and easily by my midwife. And they would have been dealt with differently in the hospital in a way that likely wouldn't have been as holistic, natural, or respectful of me or Audrey.
20) Lastly, and most importantly, I believe that natural birth is a normal bodily function that happens best when not interfered with and is only rarely a medical emergency.
Birthing at the hospital does not give you a 100% guarantee that everything will go right. Just like in everyday life there are risks involved. Most people decide the benefits of getting out of bed to go to work is worth the risks of leaving their house (they may be hit by a car! Or catch a deadly disease from a stranger! Or get gunned down by a coworker!) The same considerations of risks and benefits apply to birth.
For me, the benefits of homebirth far outweigh any risks. And the cons of hospital birth far outweigh any potential benefits. See
here for research on the safety of homebirth.
